Wednesday, December 31, 2008

What if the hokey-pokey is what it's all about...

I've been trying to catch up with blog-reading before diving back into the blog-posting, but that never seems to pan out for me. So, in the new year, I'm planning to find the time to write more here even if I never catch up with the posts in the Google Reader. It's an outlet I desperately need and one that has been strongly missed.

To start things off right, I'm following Jonniker's advice and doing a New Year meme. A list of others who've also done this one is posted at All & Sundry.

1. What did you do in 2008 that you'd never done before?
Drove across the country from Virginia to Washington, which was necessary to accomplish my first ever move away from the eastern part of this country.

2. Did you keep your new year's resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
I'm not sure that I made any. I was busy being pregnant, waiting for my husband to come home from deployment, to think much further into the future and strive to do anything.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
Me! I also had another friend give birth very shortly after me.

4. Did anyone close to you die?
No, thankfully.

5. What countries did you visit?
Just my own, but a lot of it.

6. What would you like to have in 2009 that you lacked in 2008?
Some much needed resolution and peace.

7. What dates from 2008 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
March 19, LMX's birth date
August 24, our arrival to Kitsap County, Washington
October 4, when I officially hated someone so much I wished he'd die
October 16, the day we moved to our house in Washington
December 11, my first-born babies turned 5

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
Survival. Success with breastfeeding.

9. What was your biggest failure?
Allowing IFKAMH to provoke me into arguing with him in front of my children.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?
I suffered from some awful, inexplicable back pain off and on recently.

11. What was the best thing you bought?
Ergo baby carrier. Most useful item during our travels and adventures.

12. Whose behavior merited celebration?
LMX, for not causing misery during the roadtrip. NS, for honoring the "for better or worse" vow when IFKAMH decided to burden our lives with his presence, his ill-conceived ideas, and his mother's money.

13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed?
IFKAMH and his mother.

14. Where did most of your money go?
Paying daycare, old creditors, and a retainer for an attorney.

15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?
Having new baby! Moving across the country! Throwing birthday party for 5 year-olds!

16. What song will always remind you of 2008?
That's Not My Name by The Ting Tings.

17. Compared to this time last year, are you:
a) happier or sadder? Mostly happier. There are some things that have made me sadder than I've ever been before, though.
b) thinner or fatter? Smaller but fatter. Last year, there was a growing baby in my belly; now, while there is technically a smaller number of pounds, the distribution of that weight isn't nearly as cute.
c) richer or poorer? Both, somewhat.

18. What do you wish you'd done more of?
Unpacking because it's still not done. Writing because there has been too much on my mind.

19. What do you wish you'd done less of?
Worrying, fighting, yelling, crying.

20. How did you spend Christmas?
In our new home with NS, all my little boys, and my sister-in-law, K.

21. Did you fall in love in 2008?
So many times, over and over, with the same people.

22. What was your favorite TV program?
Psych. Love it. Look forward to it. Heart would sink if it wasn't coming back.

23. Do you hate anyone now that you didn't hate this time last year?
I'm not sure if I was certain of the hatred last year, but even if I was, the hatred is stronger now than it was then.

24. What was the best book you read?
I haven't finished the only book I've had open all year. It's just not high on the list of priorities.

25. What was your greatest musical discovery?
I don't dislike country music nearly as much as I once did.

26. What did you want and get?
A baby! A house! A family like the one I've always dreamed of having.

27. What did you want and not get?
More money. IFKAMH accepting his failure as a father and understanding his place in their lives.

28. What was your favorite film of this year?
It's hard to remember what I've seen this year. I know I enjoyed Wall-E, Iron Man, The Dark Knight, and likely several others.

29. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
I went to my grandmother's house. My 28th birthday was on a Sunday this year and should have involved a full weekend of varying activities and fun for me; instead, everything got shoved into the one day to accommodate a visit from IFKAMH.

30. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
If I could have finished unpacking or painting or been able to keep my money to put towards one of the many renovations we want to do in the house instead of paying a lawyer.

31. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2008?
Accessible boobs.

32. What kept you sane?
NS. Showering alone, in private. Chocolate, mostly in the form of brownies.

33. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?
My love and adoration for Selma Hayak was renewed with her statements regarding breastfeeding and how it doesn't magically melt pregnancy weight for every woman.

34. What political issue stirred you the most?
Same-sex marriage has influenced my views on politicians greatly. It disturbs me greatly that so many people in this country think same-sex couples are deserving of less than equal rights and benefits. I officially became a Libertarian this year, just before the election, after getting fed up with neither major party actually fitting with my beliefs and finding that the Libertarian party was the closest match.

35. Who did you miss?
My mom. I wish she could be here in Washington with us.

36. Who was the best new person you met?
The boys' new preschool teacher. She is very caring and actually seems to enjoy her work and responsibility.

37. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2008.
I am a strong person and have survived a lot in the last few years. The magnitude of it all didn't really dawn on me until this year, until I was forced to re-document it all. Having the blog was immeasurably helpful for that task. Life is a lot easier when you have people to lean on and when you let yourself lean on them to make life easier.

38. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.
Just live your life.

Cheers to a new year, everyone...may it be a very happy one;>