Wednesday, August 24, 2005

They only look alike...

M and J were coloring pictures last night after dinner. The results were just another way to see how different these little boys are from each other.

M took charge of all the crayons
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J just took one or two crayons at a time
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M's final draft
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J's final draft...much softer;>
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Saturday, August 20, 2005

A lesson on applying for a job...

While waiting to be seen for my Progressive screening/interview, I (and the chic next to me) noticed that they could probably easily eliminate some people by coming out to the lobby and looking around and listening. It still amazes me how many adults don't know certain "rules" about applying for a job.

Proper Attire...
-Don't wear a sundress (you know, sleeveless or possibly short sleeves) and sandals...they may work in a casual business office, but not for an interview
-Don't wear bright-ass pink capris with a white, orange, and bright-ass pink sleeveless top and sandals...again, while may be suitable for work in general, not so much for the interviewing process
-Don't wear a chocolate brown, faux-suede, sleeveless dress that has a hem-line that is stretching to be mid-thigh and a gold zipper from bottom to top and again with the sandals......your goal should not be to visually demonstrate how far you're willing to go to get the job (best reserve that dress for attracting men at the bar); people, sandals are not considered "professional" shoes in almost all cases; open-toe, open-back shoes had better be spectacular and critical to your outfit looking pulled together if you're wearing them to an interview
-Do wear you pants in the right size and at your waist...I think you know where I'm going with this one; one guy had pants on at least a size or two too large and just barely over his cheeks (not even to mention his other mistake of pairing a brown belt and shoes with black slacks)
*General rule of thumb...go with traditional colors and cover most of your skin because if you don't and everyone else does, you will only make them remember your lack of concern of how you presented yourself rather than any of your experience and knowledge

Before anyone criticizes me for criticizing...I have heard on more than one occassion that people were hired over someone else simply because they looked professional when arriving for the interview. This is what both my mother and IFKAMH were told by previous hiring personnel. And while not every job requires professional attire, like a tractor-trailer driver or a nurse, more often than not, your interview will not have you getting hands-on with the job and your good clothes won't be scoffed at. Most people will see that you were simply trying to make the best impression during your interview and will respect it, even if they weren't expecting you to wear anything special.

Now as far as what you do while you're waiting to be seen...
-Don't talk like you're out to dinner (or at a club) with you buds or never know how this company will decide to weed out the bad apples; they could very easily have someone posing as a candidate just to sit with the real candidates to see how they act
-Don't answer your cell phone if you don't absolutely have to...everyone nearby will hear the conversation, and now is definitely not the time to start talking about your night out last night and how drunk you got or about how you just found out your "man" has been seeing two other women behind your back
*General rule of thumb...act like you're "on" the moment you step foot in the door; keep discussions as professional as possible, including small talk if you're desparate to kill time

The job hunt is on...

Thursday I went to a pre-screening/interview/job fair thing for a job as an insurance claims rep for Progressive. I'm not certain how much I want this to work out. The ad said that the hours are flexible and the office can travel with you, but I have a feeling that the hours could be long and unpredictable, which is not good for me.

I also faxed out 5 resumes yesterday. Four of which are administrative type jobs: two dental receptionists, a medical front desk person, and an estimator assistant for a construction company. The fifth one was for a surgical assistant for a cosmetic surgery center. I would really like to get this one because I should have some interesting stories to tell at dinnertime if I've learned anything from my mom, the R.N.;>...I am just hoping it pays well enough and has benefits as good as the ad says they are. I submitted an application for an admin assistant for the police department, too, and will be mailing another application on Monday for a county government job for a software support specialist. I have a couple other possibilities that need to be applied for in person, so I'll probably do that on Monday as well.

I actually got a call back on Friday afternoon, about three hours after the faxes were sent, but since I wasn't home, it was just a message on the machine. Funny thing was she didn't give her name or the name of the company. The number I called back didn't give the company name, either, but did have the woman's first and last name. The exchange for the number (if you're not sure what this's the three digits after the area code in a phone number) didn't match up with any of the fax numbers I had, so I'm clueless as to which job this call was for...but I'll think it a good thing until I find out more.

Wish me luck in my search, and wish me a speedy contested divorce so that I can sell my house and start really looking at the homes for sale around here and don't have to worry about whether or not anything I do (like getting a job, requesting government assistance, etc.) will end up making me seem like a VA resident instead of a FL one...which would then cause me to have to wait another year to even be able to file for divorce:(

Tuesday, August 16, 2005

The three-month mark has been long gone...

According to GA Girl, after about three months of no sex, the strongness of the desire subsides. The only time I've gone three months without was because of my own complete lack of sex drive while prenant. I've just gone past the fourth month of involuntary abstinence, and I have not found my strong desire fading a bit. Instead, I find myself wanting to take every attractive man I see into a dark corner and take advantage of him in the best way I know how;> I wonder if they notice or if anyone else I'm with notices, but mostly I wonder what the hell I'm going to be like when I'm actually given the opportunity to be alone with another man and have the chance to fulfill my oh-so-aching needs. Will I have the determination not to act on my lust? I really don't know since that was never one of my stronger abilities in the past, but what's worse is that I'm no longer so sure that I want to. Oh well, maybe the six-month mark will have a better effect on curbing these feelings.

Monday, August 15, 2005

Latest happenings...

We are starting to get settled in VA now. A bit of a routine has been established, which is nice. I am really happy to be back, which I would never have thought possible a year ago because I had desparately wanted to be away from here and never return (except for visits) from the time I was in high school and was very happy in FL. But I like seeing areas with lots of trees and homes with some grass around them, and I want my boys to grow up here like I did because I really have a ton of fond memories that were created here.

Anyway, M and J went to a daycare on Friday for a few hours. They will be going Monday, Wednesday, and Friday from 11-5, but they didn't go today since they are teething and have, of course, gotten a nasty little cold to go with that (this happens every single time they get new teeth, and I was the same as a baby according to my mom). I didn't really want to do the daycare thing until I needed to but then thought that it may be better for them to have some outside interaction without momma and get to play with some other kids. After all, they started daycare when they were just 8 weeks old, and it really helped develop some great social skills. They aren't afraid of new people and situations, and I think that has a lot to do with them going to daycare. Of course, they could just be wired that way, but I prefer to think otherwise since it always made me feel less guilty about having to work and put them in daycare. They had a great time and didn't have any problems adapting to the new surroundings. M concerns me a little, though. A little before I arrived to pick them up, another mother came to get her boy. She, apparently, resembles me quite a bit, and M thought she was me and was trying to leave with her. He became very upset because he thought I was leaving without him. The daycare lady said that he was clinging to her leg and crying "mama". This is a little scary to me. I told him, whether or not he really understands, that I would never refuse him, so he cannot be so willing to go with just anyone that looks like momma. I have been told by a lot of people that they know someone who looks "exactly" like me, so I am concerned that my son would take off with anyone that resembles me without hesitation. I just have to hope that this won't happen often.

Anyhow...speaking of work, I'm going to have to start doing that again soon, hopefully in the next couple of weeks. I'm not sure what I want to apply for, though. I could apply for a "real" job, which would be great in the long run, or a temp/temp-to-hire job, which may be what I have to do depending on whether or not getting a job in a state would indicate I am a resident there (need to maintain residence in Florida until divorce is final), or I could get a frivolous part-time job, which I would like to do just to meet people, but then I think that would look wierd on my resume. So, I know I'm going to need to work very soon to keep up with bills, but I really don't know what I want to do. I guess I'll figure it out soon enough.

And about the divorce thing...IFKAMH is being a royal pain about this. He won't return the paperwork he was sent (to provide his financial info) and hasn't returned my last phone call/message. The last time I spoke to him was Wednesday, nearly a week ago. I told him that I really needed to move this forward and want to do this the cheap way instead of the expensive way and so need his cooperation. He was, of course, working and therefore couldn't talk but said he would call to talk about it later. He also said that money was being sent that day. I had told him a couple days before this to forget about the Western Union wire and just buy a money order and overnight it...nearly as fast but much cheaper, so I would assume that was what he was supposed to do that day...yet I haven't gotten anything. He even told his mom on Thursday that he had sent money, which was the first time he had used the past tense instead of future about this subject, so she thought it may be true, but, because he hadn't called to tell me he sent anything, I told her it was probably just a deterrent to keep her from calling him and harrassing him about sending money...and since I haven't gotten it, I think I was right. I will be trying to contact him again today, probably having to leave a message, which is fine because he always makes some excuse on the phone as to why he has to go less than 5 minutes in to the coversation. I really don't want to have to do this the contested way, which I never dreamed I would have to do, because it's going to be nearly three times as expensive (at least). My ploy will be that if he really thinks that we will still work things out, then we can always get remarried in the future, but if he doesn't cooperate and therefore makes this divorce cost several thousand instead of around a thousand, then he can forget about any future reconciliation...and if he really wants me to believe that he cares about his children and me, then he will make this as easy and cheap as possible so that we can start building a good life again. It will be a little more elaborate on the message, but that is the gist of my scheme.

Got to go now...shower time;>

Tuesday, August 09, 2005

I think it's impossible...

I'm trying to catch up on reading my favorite blogs, but I can't even get through them all in the time I've given myself, let alone read all the comments or make my own comments.

I really need to hunt down the boxes with my computer and hook it up in the bedroom I'm in, so I can be online all night instead of watching pointless TV...gotta go, need shower;>

Trying to get back into blog things...

I stole from GA Girl, who stole from Buffalo

1. Nervous habits?
Licking my lips and playing with my hair
2. Are you double jointed?
My fingers are, elbows might be
3. Can you roll your tongue?
4. Can you raise one eyebrow at a time?
I would have thought I could until I tried it and found I can’t
5. Can you blow spit bubbles?
Used to be able to, but I can’t seem to get it now
6. Can you cross your eyes?
How can you get out of childhood without being able to do this?!?
7. Tattoos?
8. Piercings?
Two in each ear, closed navel one and closed outer-cartiledge ear
9. Do you make your bed daily?
You’re kidding, right? That is a waste of time, in my opinion…although, I will admit to doing it now that I’m living with my mom and step-dad because I know not everyone feels it’s a waste of time, and I'd rather do it and make a good impression than not do it and someone wish that I would.


10. Which shoe goes on first?
I don’t know that I always put the same one on first, but I’d guess more often than not, it’s the right one.
11. Speaking of shoes, have you ever thrown one at anyone?
Sure have, but I don’t think I’ve ever done it out of anger.
12. On the average, how much money do you carry?
I carry a little plastic card called a debit card. When I carry actual green and shiny cash, it disappears faster than I’d like.
13. What jewelry do you wear 24/7?
Diamond earrings in top hole of each ear, toe rings (usually two, but currently only one)
14. Favorite piece of clothing?
Right now, I’d go with one of my pairs of Old Navy demin capris.


15. Do you twirl your spaghetti or cut it?
Whatever I feel like doing at the time, usually a combination of both.
16. Have you ever eaten Spam?
17. Do you use extra salt on your food?
I won’t say never, but rarely.
18. How many cereals in your cabinet?
I think there are three here, but I used to only have one in my pantry.
19. What's your favorite beverage
Non-alcoholic=sweet tea, southern style; Alcoholic=margarita on the rocks, no salt, extra tequila;>
20. What's your favorite fast food restaurant?
21. Do you cook?
Don’t do much from scratch, but I prepare stuff using a stove and oven.


22. How often do you brush your teeth?
Morning and night…except that one night a week that I fall asleep without realizing it before I’ve gotten ready for bed.
23. Hair drying method?
24. Have you ever colored/highlighted your hair?


25. Do you swear?
Not often
26. Do you ever spit?
Gross…only when I need to get gum, nasty food, hair, or toothpaste/mouthwash out of my mouth.


27. Animal?
Killer Whale
28. Food?
Potatoes or pasta…yes, I am a carb-lover and will never, ever be on a low-card diet;>
29. Month
July…my birthday and smack in the middle of my favortie season
30. Day?
Now that I’m not working Monday-Friday, they’re all great, but Saturdays used to be the best.
31. Cartoon?
32. Shoe brand?
Subject in school?
Usually English because the people in my classes were always fun.
34. Color?
35. Sport?
I like to watch football.
36. TV shows?
Law & Order (any), CSI (Original or Miami), Crossing Jordan, What Not to Wear, The Closer
37. Thing to do in the spring?
Prepare for summer.
38. Thing to do in the summer?
Play in the water…pool, ocean, lake, whatever
39. Thing to do in the autumn?
Now that I’m back in Virginia…I'll collect colorful leaves to show to my boys. And have fun with Halloween, of course.
40. Thing to do in the winter?
Have a birthday party for my boys and getting ready for Christmas.


41. In the CD player?
3 Doors Down
42. Person you talk most on the phone with?
My mother-in-law. I live with my mom, and my friends don’t yet have the Virginia house number.
43. Reading?
Mystery or thriller novels.
44. Do you regularly check yourself out in store windows/mirrors?
45. What color is your bedroom?
Well, the bedroom I’m sleeping in is blue…a really neon kind of blue that is not very nice, in my opinion. My FL bedroom was an unfinished red, and I’m sure whatever bedroom will be mine next will be painted red.
46. Do you use an alarm clock?
Currently, no because I don’t need to. M and J get me out of bed by 9 am. I was using the one on my cell phone, which is dangerous because it has a snooze and doesn’t require my leaving the bed to push it.
47. Window seat or aisle?
I really don’t care; not having one or the other doesn’t bother me in the least. IFKAMH always wanted the window, so I took the middle or aisle seat, depending on the plane. I would probably choose aisle over window because it’s easier to get out that way.


48. What's your sleeping position?
Since I was on bedrest with my pregnancy and was forced to switch from being a back sleeper to a left-side sleeper, I have gotten used to being a left-side sleeper.
49. Even in hot weather do you use a blanket?
Yes, and please don’t ever try to get me to sleep without a blanket!
50. Do you snore?
No one has ever told me I do, so I guess not.
51. Do you sleepwalk?
52. Do you talk in your sleep?
I have. One time, when I was around eleven or twelve years old, my mom said that I sat straight up in the middle of the night rambling about how the odds were better than the evens. This was because the answers to the odd-numbered math questions were in the back of the book…what a nightmare I must have been having to be dreaming about math questions and answers.
53. Do you sleep with stuffed animals?
Not anymore. I did up until the time I moved out at 18.
54. How about with the light on?
While sleeping, right? No.
55. Do you fall asleep with the TV or radio on?
The TV in this room has no sleep-timer, so I try my best to turn it off before I fall asleep, but I like to have that noise while I fall asleep. I wouldn’t if I had remembered to bring more books with me, though…
56. Last interesting person you met
Wow…I don’t really remember meeting many people recently, which probably means I didn’t find them to be interesting, so I’ll go with GA Girl’s D, whom I met in June, since I knew about him but when I met him, he exceeded my expectations.

Friday, August 05, 2005

Quick Update

M, J, the dogs, and I arrived in VA on Monday afternoon. The trip went pretty well, although we got up too early Monday morning, in my opinion. The boys seem to be adjusting well, and we're trying to get things unpacked and settled right now, which leaves little time for anything else. Also really sucks that there is no cell service in this house, so it's difficult to even keep in touch by phone. This seems to have been a good move, and I'm looking forward to being able to make it more permanent sooner than later. Hope to be able to start posting pics for The Foot Fetish by next week since my computer (I'm using my mom's right now) should be set up this weekend.

Well, I've got to take care of some other stuff and take a shower before M and J wake up...bye;>